In my last post, I gave you some general tips on how to build resilience in your everyday life.

Now I’d like to help you understand how to continue building resilience when facing adversity, because a resilient mindset is one that allows you to adapt and adjust in the face of difficult circumstances.

Resilient people are able to maintain their sense of hope and optimism even in the face of setbacks and adversity. They understand that setbacks are a natural part of life and that they can learn from their experiences. Here are some tips for developing a more resilient mindset:

  • Acknowledge your feelings: Don’t try to bottle up your emotions or pretend everything is okay when it’s not. Be honest with yourself; allow yourself to feel angry, sad, or scared. Acknowledging your feelings will help you process them and move on.
  • Seek support: When you’re facing a challenging situation, it can be helpful to seek out support from family and friends. Just knowing that you’re not alone can make a big difference. Talking to someone who understands what you’re going through can also be helpful.
  • Focus on what you can control: If you can’t control the situation that you’re in, you can at least control how you react to it. Instead of dwelling on the things that are out of your control, focus on what you can do to make the best of the situation.
  • Be prepared for setbacks: Remember, setbacks are a normal part of life. Acknowledging this fact, will make it easier to bounce back from disappointments and keep moving forward toward your goals.
  • Learn from your experiences: This is perhaps the most important of all, and probably the hardest to do. I know there are all sorts of mems out there about turning problems into challenges, but in truth, looking back on difficult times can be distressing. It’s hard to do, but instead of seeing them as negative experiences, try to look at them as lessons that will make you stronger and more resilient. Ask yourself what you can learn from the past situation and how you can use what you’ve learned to cope with whatever you’re presently going through.

A short story for you:

A close friend of mine lived through the  Great Ice Storm of 1998 in Quebec. She was stuck at home with a young daughter, without power, heat, or light for 13 days in sub-zero temperatures. Her husband was stuck at his workplace for the first week Roads were impassable; she could not go anywhere else. By the time the roads were clear enough for her husband to get home, there was nowhere else to go – her friends were all in the same circumstances, and every hotel, and shelter was full. it was a very frightening and difficult time.

Recently, there was another ice storm and I called her to see how she was doing. She had learned from the previous experience and had immediately filled baggies with snow and ice and packed them around the food in her freezer and filled the vegetable drawer in her fridge with ice from the ice maker. She had an “Emergency Bin” with candles, lamp oil, and a small Coleman camp stove. When I spoke to her, she was cheerful and told me that because she had learned from the storm 25 years ago, she came through this one just fine.

She’s resilient.

Be like her – be resilient.

Till we chat again,