I hope you enjoyed my post on Abundance. Now here is the follow-up; Gratitude!
You may be thinking, “Man, I am in lockdown after a yearlong pandemic, what have I to be thankful for?” Exactly! Earl Nightingale, who some would say is one of the founders of the self-help movement, assured us that what we focus on Grows. So, if you want to have more to be grateful for, be more grateful now!
You may say “Wayne, you are just being “churchy” again”. Well, guess what? This is one of the areas where the secular and the spiritual agree. Don’t take my word for it, check it out! Jack Canfield, (Mr. Chicken Soup) Bob Proctor, Tony Robbins, and yes, even Mother Teresa agree; what you think and say often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I have been in and around the personal growth industry for over thirty years, but gratitude did not come easily to me. You see, I was raised with what has been called “stupid money”. Speed boats, ponies, Lionel Train Sets, elite Hockey Camps, (I found you can’t get to the NHL if you skate on your ankles, but I digress…) Even my first car was a Lincoln!
So, why am I telling you this? Because at 25 it was all gone! The family money, the popular friends, the social ranking-Gone! I spent my next 20 years trying to get back what I had as a kid. (I later learned that this was probably due to illness, but that didn’t matter the time.)
A speaker I heard while in college put it best, “Due to a series of bad luck and misunderstandings….” To state it simply, I lived more in resentment than Gratitude. But as the very red hair has become “platinum” (Hey, some women call them highlights!) I have learned to be aware of the tremendous abundance I have been shown.
In fact, at the core of the motivation movement for the last 5000 years has been to have a full tummy and live indoors! So, what am I thankful for? I have a beautiful wife and daughter that love me, and after 30 plus years I attribute that more to Elizabeth’s patience than any brilliance on my part. My house is safe and warm, my refrigerator is full, and I have electricity. (Trust me, electricity is like oxygen, you only notice it when you don’t have it!)
So all that seems like “so what?” Well, probably 1/3 to 1/2 of the world doesn’t have any of those things!
So, how do you find the gratitude in your life? Keep a journal for at least thirty days of at least three things you are grateful for. Five is even better. Whether it is your regular journal, (you are journaling right?), a dedicated Gratitude journal, or even your daily planner, use whatever works best for you. Verbalize these gratitudes out loud, then write them down! And yes, I said WRITE not text or type. Your brain handles these things differently. This is not just my opinion, Harvard’s brain mapping studies prove it.
At the end of that month, review what you’ve written, and see if you aren’t feeling and acting differently. And then write that down.
I would love to hear from you about how this experience has worked (or not) for you. Send me a note: email@example.com
Until we chat again,